Tips and Scripts

Need help getting started? Here are 10 tips for talking about sex and love with your children. You can also find tips for talking about birth control and tips for talking about waiting

  1. Start early: Use this "window of opportunity" and talk with your children early and often about tough issues like sex, love and relationships.
  2. Start the talk: Don’t count on your child feeling comfortable enough to come to you with questions  begin the conversation yourself.
  3. Care your values: When talking with your child about sex, love and relationships remember to talk about your family’s values.
  4. Listen as much as you talk: Listening carefully lets your child know they are important. This can lead to valuable discussions about a wide variety of sensitive issues.
  5. Be honest: Whatever your child’s age, they need honest answers and information. Honesty will build trust for further talks.
  6. Be patient: Let your child think at their own pace. Listen to what they are saying daily about people, places and situations they are in that may be unhealthy, or give cause for concern.
  7. Use “teachable moments": Moments in everyday life are a perfect chance to begin talking. TV shows and commercials are a great way to start a talk about teen pregnancy, peer pressure or relationships.
  8. Talk about it again… and again… and again: Most children only want small bits of information at any one time — especially about heavy topics like sex, love and relationships. They will not learn everything from a single discussion — give more than just “the talk”!